first take on this here: decisiveness
Friends Poll
- andy: putting off decisions,
- doesn’t like making them on instinct
- difference between decisions that have external deadline and those not
- ex of one without: life decisions like switch job
- don’t want to waste any years at abbott, needed promotion to switch bc of that
- still think about it but not pressing
- doing nothing is a decision
- ameesh
- jamie wong
- andrew ligeralde
- annie
alden
The progression seems to be
- Externally Decisive — I know what to do because some value system told me
- Stuck — I don’t know what to do so I’ll think about it a lot and spin my wheels
- Internally Decisive — Fuck that man, you’re halfway dead already. What do YOU want?
For me 2 → 3 (WIP, but real) was precipitated by painful events in my life. I suspect there are less expensive access points, but I doubt many people find a way out (in?) without paying some kind of hefty price.
(3) shows up most in small choices. To go out or to stay in. To pick up the phone or reply with a text. To allow anger or pull myself out of it.
I put myself the question, but find there’s no decision to make. Or rather, the decision is already made. My want is already present. For me, this understanding is a complete inversion. For the first time the explicit mind is doing the asking rather than the answering.