Author:: brene brown Link:: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o Tags: resources Video ted talk Summary::
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- everyone who had connection, the common was that they believe they are worthy and are whole-hearted people ^gtlcT4CHn
- goals i want to be whole-hearted
- three things they had are
- courage: tell the story of who you are with your whole heart, courage to be imperfect
- compassion: to be kind to others because they treat themselves kindly
- connection: as a result of authenticity, let go of who they thought they should be to be who they are
- vulnerability: its not comfortable or excruciating, it’s just necessary. willingness to say i love you first and do something where they are no guarantees
- be greedier
- be more vulnerable goals
- source of shame + fear but also birthplace of creativity and belonging and love
- we numb vulnerability because shit is going down and we need numbness to survive
- problem is we can’t selectively numb bad stuff, we take them all together
- never numb, feel everything, be courageous enough to take it all on
- the more afraid we are, the more we blame others, try to perfect things that are imperfectable
- perfection is bad
- it’s not the critic who counts, it’s the person in the arena. at least he’s daring greatly regardless of whether he fails or wins
- shame is focus on self, guilt is focus on behavior
- creativity and innovation and connection come from vulnerability and discarding shame ^o509DyDgk
- everyone who had connection, the common was that they believe they are worthy and are whole-hearted people ^gtlcT4CHn