a how to guide on cultivating main character energy without being a dick
came across tik toker that talks about how to speak with more intentionality and confidence. Stop caveating yourself and over-explaining yourself. Just be. Act like you’re the main fucking character. There’s something insanely valuable in having the ability to turn on your “main character energy” and acting like you own the whole world.
How do you stop this from turning into arrogance or being a dick? I think it’s ensuring that consent runs fundamental to all you do. You can act like a main character and believe with delusional certainty that all you do is right while also ensuring that everything you do that affects other people significantly has consent from them. It gets tricky what the line is for consent. Do you need to ask for consent to express your opinion? How about one that is very extreme and attacks their world view? Sometimes this goes too far like this guy I encountered recently in an in-person Twitter meetup where he just ranted for 20 minutes without letting anyone speak in rambling terms in a heated manner. Clearly though this is the extreme of no respect to others and just frankly being a really bad communicator.
there’s a fundamental level of irrational narcissism that’s necessary to give you permission to express yourself in the world. You need to believe that you’re a badass and that people need to hear what you have to say, that they’d be worse off if you didn’t speak up, that not only your presence but your desires and wants and needs speak to what