Choosing the Life You Want

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My mistake was that I thought change was determined by effort. If only I had more willpower, I thought, I could muscle my way into being the person I wanted to become. What I know now is that yes, effort is important. But environment is more so (View Highlight)
Three years ago I looked at my life and asked: Am I moving towards the life I want? The answer was no. Slowly, I started to change my environment. I left a job that was focused on achievement and a city obsessed with accomplishment. I spent much more time alone. Naturally, my relationships started to change. I got closer to people who lived the way I wanted to live (peacefully, calmly, creatively) and drifted away from others. Friendships evolved. Some ended. These conversations were not fun. I cried a lot. I felt like I was losing myself. Was I a bad person? Was I selfish? (View Highlight)
Moving towards the life we want requires changing the life we have. What this means is that the way we show up won’t stay the same. Relationships transforming is a natural part of living. I can forgive myself for falling out of touch and empathize with people who drifted away. We were just in different seasons. (View Highlight)

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My mistake was that I thought change was determined by effort. If only I had more willpower, I thought, I could muscle my way into being the person I wanted to become. What I know now is that yes, effort is important. But environment is more so (View Highlight)
Three years ago I looked at my life and asked: Am I moving towards the life I want? The answer was no. Slowly, I started to change my environment. I left a job that was focused on achievement and a city obsessed with accomplishment. I spent much more time alone. Naturally, my relationships started to change. I got closer to people who lived the way I wanted to live (peacefully, calmly, creatively) and drifted away from others. Friendships evolved. Some ended. These conversations were not fun. I cried a lot. I felt like I was losing myself. Was I a bad person? Was I selfish? (View Highlight)
Moving towards the life we want requires changing the life we have. What this means is that the way we show up won’t stay the same. Relationships transforming is a natural part of living. I can forgive myself for falling out of touch and empathize with people who drifted away. We were just in different seasons. (View Highlight)

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My mistake was that I thought change was determined by effort. If only I had more willpower, I thought, I could muscle my way into being the person I wanted to become. What I know now is that yes, effort is important. But environment is more so (View Highlight)
Three years ago I looked at my life and asked: Am I moving towards the life I want? The answer was no. Slowly, I started to change my environment. I left a job that was focused on achievement and a city obsessed with accomplishment. I spent much more time alone. Naturally, my relationships started to change. I got closer to people who lived the way I wanted to live (peacefully, calmly, creatively) and drifted away from others. Friendships evolved. Some ended. These conversations were not fun. I cried a lot. I felt like I was losing myself. Was I a bad person? Was I selfish? (View Highlight)
Moving towards the life we want requires changing the life we have. What this means is that the way we show up won’t stay the same. Relationships transforming is a natural part of living. I can forgive myself for falling out of touch and empathize with people who drifted away. We were just in different seasons. (View Highlight)